I never thought I would be one to commend vulnerability as an admirable quality until I analyzed while on South Beach this past week. When the summer heat comes, vulnerability takes on all sorts of meaning, and in a bathing suit, trying to soak up as much sun as possible, you tend to be pretty exposed and inherently very vulnerable. Summer marks the time when dresses become more sheer, jeans cut more and more up the leg, and tanks are all the tighter and tighter, and you are left with a closet of less clothing than ever before. Vulnerability becomes how much skin you intend to show rather than the vulnerability of trying something that’s rather different from everyone else. You see, in the wintertime, the latter is the only form of vulnerability in fashion available to us. Although we all dress more vulnerably in the summertime, I find it funny that we all end up looking the same. Perhaps this tendency to dress like our friends, in a sort of matching state of homogeny, traces back to all of our hoping to “fit in.”
“Fitting in” is great in theory, and something we all place heavy pressure on ourselves to achieve. Generally, “fitting in” means having lots of friends and capitalizing on your people interacting powers of great conversation and the the tremendous use of your street smarts. However, “fitting in” doesn’t allow you to dress fully to your personality. It rather capitalizes on the labels we place on certain groups of people. I see fashion as one of the only few ways to fully achieve vulnerability.
I am a big fan and watcher of British Vogue’s collaboration series with the Vestiaire Collective, where we can go inside models’ closets. Suki Waterhouse has my favorite closet in the series. She is stylish, looking completely awesome without being fully put together. There is always a playful sense to what she wears– highly youthful, but historically taken. She says,”The most stylish people aren’t the most popular girls at school. When you are a thoughtful person or a vulnerable person it’s when you are making the kind of style choices that are real and true to yourself.” Perhaps I am willing this to be true to explain my own social standing, but I think Waterhouse has a rather strong point. I derive my sense of self greatly from what I wear. Because of this, I am often times vulnerable to judgment. But being judged requires confidence, and this is why I am a rather confident person. Confidence then finds a following of people, and the birth of a blog is made possible. Cecilia Roses came into existence this way. When you decide to neglect the sense of “fitting in” to everyone else, you begin to fit into yourself more fully. By doing so, you are asked to be vulnerable.
My Look: Zara swimsuit and coverup
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